Journal 10/13

No, really. 10/13. I'm concerned about the "legitimacy" of facebook relationships. This has to be one of the most confusing aspects of facebook-dom. When American society begins to adopt terms like "facebook official" ("The ultimate definition of a college relationship - when on one's facebook profile it says "In A Relationship" and your significant other's name." - urbandictionary.com), I know we're in trouble. I guess this opinion reflects upon my view that inferring someone's relationship status without having them explicitly state it is one of the biggest frustrations in the dating world. The fact that you can so publicly state that you're in a relationship, married, "in an open relationship", engaged, or otherwise with another facebook denizen just makes it more complicated. Usually when someone says that they're married to someone, you can assume that they a) are lying or b) just really like that person a lot. But which one? One of my friends is actually married and both she and her spouse have facebook accounts. A lot of people are in facebook relationships with people of the same gender; I asked my friends what they thought about this and they also said it was probably just a joke. But then that plays into heteronormativity. What if they really are in a relationship with someone of the same gender, but don't feel like putting their sexual preference on their profile? It's like real life - some people lie, and some people don't, but the fact that some people do means everyone could be. Unless you see evidence to otherwise.